I’ve had many humbling experiences in my life, including voluntarily going homeless for one week every year as part of an awareness-raising project. But my most humbling experience so far has been being unemployed.
Since I left my job in October, I went from being the man-of-the-house to the man-in-the-house. My new househusband role begins at 6:45 am when I wake up to make and pack my wife’s lunch. By 7:15 am, I’ve also ironed her clothes. At 7:30 am, I’m warming up the car to drop her off at the train station fifteen minutes later
After that, phase two begins. I make sure the house is clean, the laundry is done and dinner is made while also searching and applying for jobs. It sounds easy enough, right? Let me tell you, it’s one of the most difficult jobs I’ve ever done and I’m still trying to get it 100% right. I have a new respect for women and men who take on the role of homemaker. And, I can only imagine the work it takes to be a stay-at-home parent.
Unlike the movies, making a life with another person is rarely a happily ever after.
There are stormy seasons and safe comforting shores by turn. In our life together, there have been times that my husband Yusuf and I could have given up because those comforting shores were nowhere to be seen.
But, this week marks three decades together as wife and husband.
In making it this far together, I’ve discovered four hard-learned truths in the creative process that is marriage:
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Thea & Ron
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What he learned from her:
Ron: She made me stronger no doubt about it. She made me realize I had potential to do above and beyond. I never would have stepped out of my comfort zone. I would have done something mundane, I’d still be in that mailroom if not for Thea.
What she learned from him:
Thea: Life frightens me, not him. He’s the one open to change. I’d be stuck in the same place if not for him, pushing me, cajoling, loving me, cheering me. He’s willing to showcase me, while staying in the background.