Parents In Islam – As good Muslims we have to learn about manners with our parents. Islam places parents as noble human beings who are obliged to obey their orders as long as they do not conflict with Islam. When many people ask about who are the people who have many services in our lives. Most of us of course answer with the phrase “parents”. It is true that parents are humans who are very meritorious even if we want to repay their services, this really will not be reciprocated.
Parents in Islam are seen as noble people for their children. All of us have parents, and all of us have an obligation to love them, love them and treat them well.
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Parents love
Since before we were born, our mothers have carried us for 9 months. Where he goes we are always in his arms, we suck his blood, and he sometimes feels pain, enduring suffering because we are in his body. Then when he was born, he felt excruciating pain (many even died when giving birth). All this is erased and does not become a problem, even our parents are happy to see us fresh, healthy and funny. Then day by day he will look after and care for us to grow up. Try to imagine how we would be if there was no protection from both parents, without the love of both parents.
The parental affection doesn’t stop there, when we get older, they send us from one level to the next until adulthood. Even when we enter college, we are still under the costs. Even though when we are baligh we can already earn our own money. However, our parents still love us by providing all our needs so that our future will be good and successful.
However, there are also many children who are disobedient to their parents, many children are angry with their parents, even when they are successful and their parents are old and old. he then no longer ignores his parents, but instead gives his parents to a nursing home, this is a form of bad morals. We have an obligation to look after our parents, we have an obligation to pray for our parents to be merciful by Allah as they have pitied us since childhood.
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Parents In Islam
Parents in Islam are extraordinary, they have a high position even though their children are successful, become bosses, but they are obliged to look after their parents, they are obliged to maintain their speech with their parents, have to maintain manners and not say dirty or rude, and not do anything which causes the parents heartache.
In Islam, respecting parents is one of the most important aspects, even in the Koran, Allah forbids humans to say words that hurt their parents.
Allah says in Sura 17:23
۞ وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوٓا۟ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَٰنًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
“Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor “.
In this verse, parents in Islam are highly respected and honored. The first thing is that you should not worship other than your Lord (Allah), because whatever happens, worship or obey Allah ranks first. Then ordered to do good to parents, this indicates that parents in Islam are very concerned about their existence. When they are old, don’t say words that hurt them, but speak with noble words. Call them politely, talk to them politely and don’t scold them.
However, it does not mean obeying parents does not pay attention to religious rules. Because if parents violate religious rules, then their children may not follow them, even when ordered to obey the parents’ orders, they are limited here, as long as these orders do not contradict the teachings of Islam. If the orders of the parents are against religion, then the child should not obey them, because the commands and teachings of Allah are higher.
However, as children, we still shouldn’t speak harshly to them, we have to treat them the best, and wish them the best.
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Then in the next verse, chapter 17 verse 24, Allah says:
وَاخۡفِضۡ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحۡمَةِ وَقُلْ رَّبِّ ارۡحَمۡهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيٰنِىۡ صَغِيۡرًا
“And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood ‘”(17:24).
In this verse, the phrase “lower to them the wing of humility” is like a bird that lowers its wings to protect its young. Likewise with our treatment of our parents, this must be shown in the same way, which is to care for them and love them. We as children must be humble, full of compassion, respect them.
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Conclusion:
Parents in Islam have a very noble position, so for a child, do not try to treat things that are bad and unpleasant to the parents.
It is even said that Rida Allah lies in the pleasure of both parents, and Allah’s anger lies in the anger of both parents. So, to be able to achieve the pleasure of Allah, of course we are obliged to maintain manners with our parents, we need to love our parents so that they are happy with us and pleasure with their children. (see too: Names of Angels of God (Allah))