Advice: Why is sex so taboo?
Posted: May 2, 2013 Filed under: Let's Talk About Sex (InshAllah) | Tags: advice, american muslims, birds and the bees, family discussions about sex, Love InshAllah, marital sex, Ms. Sunshine, Muslim love, Muslim relationships, sex, sex talk, sexuality, Shy Desi Boy, talking to a family member about sex 2 Comments »Dear Love InshAllah,
How do I talk to my sister about sex? She’s 24 and about to get married. I’d like to be able to talk to her about this, but she makes me feel uncomfortable whenever I say something that is remotely close to the topic.
Signed,
Why is sex so taboo
Ms. Sunshine replies:
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Lustrous Companions
Posted: April 4, 2013 Filed under: Literature | Tags: afterlife, fiction, girlfriends, halaqa, heavenly companions, heavenly men, Love InshAllah, Mohja Kahf, Muslim love, Muslim men, Muslim relationships, Muslim women, Muslim writers, Palestinian girls, sex 7 Comments »
(They will be) on couches inlaid
Reclining on them, facing each other
Round about them (serving), eternal boys
With goblets, beakers, and cups (filled) from
clear-flowing fountains
No after-ache will they receive therefrom,
nor will they suffer intoxication
And with fruits that they may select
And the meat of fowls, any that they may desire
And Companions with beautiful,
big, and lustrous eyes,
Like unto pearls, well-guarded.
-Quran: Al-Waqiah, 15-23 *
Advice: Clueless about my wedding night
Posted: February 21, 2013 Filed under: Let's Talk About Sex (InshAllah) | Tags: advice column, american muslims, losing my virginity, Love InshAllah, Ms. Sunshine, Muslim love, Muslim marriage, Muslim men, Muslim relationships, Muslim women, relationships, sex, Shy Desi Boy, the first time, wedding night 7 Comments »Dear Love InshAllah:
I am a virgin, and I really don’t know what to expect come wedding night. I’m definitely excited (one of the greatest understatements of all-time lol), but I am just so utterly clueless as to what I should do to blow the mind of my wife-to-be!
I’ve never kissed a girl let alone done anything to have had any experience whatsoever in the female-pleasuring department. I have never dated. I don’t watch pornography or anything like that, and I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing so given that it’s haraam. But I am at a total loss as to what I should do once my wife and I are alone.
I promise I’m not a lonely creep who lives in a cave. I just had good parents who raised me religiously since I was young. Promise 
I have a great relationship with my parents, but I am too shy to even ask my own friends for advice on this issue let alone people like my mom and dad! So I’d really appreciate it if you could give me like a list of things that I should and/or from the moment we are alone to the “main event” itself. Are there any common things that most girls like? Things that, perhaps, they’d be too shy to mention directly? Also, are there any things I should know not to do or say? Misconceptions about girls and their sexuality, etc.? Any reading material you’d advise?
Signed,
Clueless about my wedding night
Ms. Sunshine replies:
Description: Single Female/Superpower: Writing
Posted: January 30, 2013 Filed under: Writers, Your voices | Tags: dating, dating as a woman writer, dating as a writer, Deonna Kelli, Love InshAllah, manhood, Muslim love, Muslim men, Muslim relationships, Muslim women, power, sex, singlehood, writers and relationships 10 Comments »
If you are a single woman who seriously writes, this can be a serious issue.
I am a writer with a few books in bookstores around the United States. One book is translated into French and resides in Canadian bookstores. I have heard there are eight graders at a Florida middle school reading my first book during classroom quiet time. This recent discovery means a great deal to me, because that first book is not eight grade reading material (far from it). It is nice to know that a random, unintended audience is paying attention.
Writing is risky, even if you are traditionally published rather than investing in the self-publishing model. One commentator recently wrote that it takes about 10,000 hours to conceptualize, research, write, and edit a publishable book length work. That is 10,000 hours away your family and outside of your day job, and time taken from social activities. In my case, this is time away from my son, developing a new social circle, and in lieu of exploring romance and dating in a post-divorce reality.
There, I said it. Right now, I’d rather write than meet men. Oh, Lord.
Advice: Marriage Sucks
Posted: January 10, 2013 Filed under: Let's Talk About Sex (InshAllah) | Tags: advice, american muslims, Love InshAllah, marriage, Ms. Sunshine, Muslim love, Muslim relationships, Muslim women, sex, Shy Desi Boy 10 Comments »Dear Love InshAllah,
My wife does not perform oral sex on me. It aggravates me. In past relationships, I have enjoyed oral sex and I am missing it in my marriage. What should I do to convince her to go down on me? Should I remind her that there is nothing haram (prohibited) about it?
Signed,
Marriage Sucks
Shy Desi Boy replies:
Your voices